Well, here we go. My very first attempt at blogging. Never thought I would become a blogger. Who knows, I may do it this once and be done with it forever or this may be the first of many. Either way I am going to do it. I have spent way to many nights sitting at home thinking of things that I want to do only to be destracted by that blooming boob tube only 7 feet from where i'm sitting. Time to turn that thing off (well, until Lost starts up again). So bare with me, this is all new.
Speaking of new, I am about to embark on a new path in my life. After 14 years of marriage, a painful divorce and plenty of therapy sessions I am about to start dating again. As Charlie Brown would say "Oh Good Grief". It has been a long time since I dated. I can't even remember who it was with, well, besides my ex of course or even where we went or did. Knowing me it was just a dinner and a movie. I'm sure the dating scene has changed quite drastically over these last 15 years or so.
To be honest, I'm nervous. How am I going to act? What should I ware? Jeans or khakis? Well, I guess the answers to those questions are just to simply be me. If she doesn't like "just me" then why is she going out with me to begin with, right? What if I do something stupid? Say something stupid? Ever heard John Mayer's song "My stupid mouth"? Makes me wonder if his stupid mouth ever got him in trouble with a date.
So, with all that being said, I want to pose a question. And this question is directed at all the women who read this blog. Men you can answer but I won't hold it against you if you don't. The question is; What are three things a man should NOT do while on a FIRST date? The answers can be from personal experiences, stories you've heard from friends or something you've seen on the boob tube.
I hope to get a lot of replys to this question. After all, I have my first post divorce date Aug 15th. I will be reading your responses VERY intently.
OH Jamie, I am so glad you asked that question! Here are some answers, #1 Don't look for kisses, you aren't ready and chances are, she isn't either. #2 DO NOT talk about the divorce, kids, or personal problems. #3 Do not judge her. Three things you can do, #1 Treat her like you want to be with her not somewhere else. Blind dates especially ~ if there is a problem with her looks, ignore it and pretend like you are with a good friend, don't try to read into it more than it is. #2 Fresh breath is always a plus even if you don't want to kiss her or have any plans as such. That goes for B.O. too. Always smell good. #3 Yes, be yourself, but be your best self. Put your best Jamie on. It is still the real Jamie, just at his best. Good Luck! I'm rooting for ya!
ReplyDeleteLove,
Suzanne
Super fantastic! Just be yourself, and I agree with Suzanne especially about the fresh breath and BO, I would say no farting, but my husband did on our first date (I'm a sucker for bodily sounds)!
ReplyDeleteI would say the worst thing any date said to me was, before we even got out of the parking lot, "So, can you still have children?". Wow...stay away from that question!! I agree with the above. And most importantly just have fun. It's not like your going to marry her or anything....oh wait.... :-)
ReplyDeleteLove ya,
Tina
What you wrote was wonderful. I truely enjoyed every minute of it. To answer your question: Suzanne is right on it. The biggest thing is be yourself and remember first impressions is the best. Never judge a book without reading it. Open the door for her talk to her and with her, make her laugh. Remember try to build a friendship first. If she is not the right one atleast you can always be friends.
ReplyDeleteGood Luck,
Lisa